All that being said...I've been researching ways to 'class up' my backyard potluck wedding, so as to not offend any delicate sensibilities. Along this research, I have looked up potluck wedding. Apparently in the Wedding Industrial Complex, those two words don't belong together. All I can surmise from this research, is the world is filled with ridiculously entitled, lazy, and selfish individuals.
Among the comments I've come across:
"I'm a wedding GUEST, I should be treated as such, not as the HELP"
"Potlucks are for graduations and family reunions, not weddings! How tacky, they should pay for me to eat!"
"If you can't afford to feed your guests, then you shouldn't have a party!"
All of these comments have essentially (and not so eloquently) stated that poor people shouldn't have weddings, and that guests have the right to be fed overpriced, disgusting catered food so that they can complain about the dry chicken or cold beef choice they were served.
Cool life.
Want to know why we're doing a potluck? It's really rather lovely. I'm sure you'd love to hear. At the least, I'd love to educate the public about being a bit more considerate and less tacky themselves :-)
We've been a couple for over 9 years. We've been together longer than most married couples (see previous post about the Seven-Year Itch). Our relationship has been a product of not just our compatibility and mutual love for each other, but also because of our family and friends supporting us the whole time. Our wedding is meant to be a cumulative effort, as it always has been. It will be a reflection of all of us, not just Josh and myself. Otherwise, our wedding meal would consist of spaghetti and tacos...which I'm guessing don't "go together" for dinner to you Martha Stewart-ites.
So Potluck it is. This means we get homecooked food, that everyone will love, and our guests (aka OUR FRIENDS, not self-entitled prigs looking for a free meal and open bar) get to have food they love and not the typical beef/chicken choice that they had to decide they wanted 2-3 months out. Have you ever made a choice for a meal you were going to have 2 months from now? When you think about it, it's kind of weird. Just thinking about it makes me anxious..."I might want beef, but I am in the mood for chicken now. What if I have Choice 1/Choice 2 envy the day of?" CRAZY.
Our other reason is a bit more selfish. I hate catered food. I have never once left a catered event unscathed from upset stomach/food poisoning/etc...which as I am planning on being a bride that day, I kind of don't want to spend the reception in the loo barfing my brains out. I'd far prefer playing croquet with my crazy uncles and getting 3 sheets to the wind on wedding punch.
Now, to the past, present, and future brides with catered weddings...more power to you. Everyone chooses the wedding options in the way that most reflects themselves as a couple, and I'm glad you found something that works/worked for you. All I ask from the collective public is that rather than calling potluck weddings "tacky", take into consideration the couple who is planning their impending nuptials. There's likely a reason, and it has nothing to do with money.
xoxo
"And be a simple kind of man.
Be something you love and understand.
Be a simple kind of man.
Won't you do this for me son,
If you can?
Forget your lust for the rich man's gold
All that you need is in your soul,
And you can do this if you try.
All that I want for you my son,
Is to be satisfied." - Lynard Skynard "Simple Man"
Be something you love and understand.
Be a simple kind of man.
Won't you do this for me son,
If you can?
Forget your lust for the rich man's gold
All that you need is in your soul,
And you can do this if you try.
All that I want for you my son,
Is to be satisfied." - Lynard Skynard "Simple Man"
